I witnessed such an amazing event that I have to share it with you.  Two sisters (one and a half and two and a half years old) were recently adopted by my friends.  To celebrate the occasion a “shower” was held.  When I arrived the adults were stocking the cookie and drinks, organizing the gift table, and greeting each other.  My daughter and I filtered back to a game room where the two teenage sons were watching over their new sisters.  Each of the sisters had a helium balloon that they repeatedly released.  The girls would say “Uh-oh” and one of the boys would reach the string and return the balloon.  My daughter got in on the game by lifting first one girl then the other so they could grasp their balloon’s string.  The game went on for what I thought was an impossibly long ten minutes or so.  None of the youth seemed too eager or at all resentful of the constant dance.

As the little girls gained confidence they took the game to a new level.  First the older, then the younger little girl ventured into the big room.  Each would seem to indiscrimently choose an adult, walk up to them, release their balloon, and say “Uh-oh”.

I watched in fascination as one adult after another took turns retrieving the balloons.  This dance continued, with short interruptions, for at least another forty minutes before until the shower came to a close.

I remembered the dynamic experienced so often by those who foster or adopt children a little older than these little sisters.  Without conscious intent, a newly fostered or adopted youngster will almost always test their new invironment to see how they will be accepted and/or cared for.  The older (extroverted) children will either act out in some very dramatic fashion ,whereas the older (introverted) children will become seriously ill.  In this manner they will quickly discover how accepted and/or cared for they will be.

As these two little sisters released their balloons again, and again, and again, and again, I realized that very unintentionally they were testing their new environment.  What a wonderful and amazing event to witness as again, and again, and again the little sisters were given calm reassurances that they were safe and cared for by this community.  It was as if the brothers had set an example that the whole community followed.  We became a “counseling community”; providing a context for healing and growth in two brave little girls.  What a beautiful moment!