Today is Easter Sunday.  I attended church today and was overwhelmed with the idea that “God came near” and is relational, and He has the final word on relationship.  In my jobs at camps, education, and youth ministry I’ve been called an expert in relationship ministry.  I have believed that I was that expert on many occasions.  I get asked to give advice, do weddings, help groups come together, and I have quite a few facebook friends.   I know, its a big deal… (the word friend has a “broadened” definition these days..)

When I think of the people who do relationship well, the people who I revere and wish I was more like, I become aware that my “expertise”  isn’t worth much.  They typically are are small group of people who, as Dave Jewitt would say, “under promise, and over deliver.”  They have a congruence, a consistency.  They practice what they preach, and they don’t preach what they don’t practice.  They take courageous paths, but don’t seem as concerned with changing the world.  They just make a true contribution to their little corner of it.  They are hospitable, gracious, honest, humble, and reverent towards God.  They don’t take on more than they can handle, because they know their specific role, and they give attention to that.  They let go of what isn’t theirs, knowing God is big and able.  That sounds like me in my dreams on a good day.  Also, they don’t seem to be trying real hard on these fronts.  It just flows from the inside (or at least it looks like that on the outside!)

Then I go to church today, and am reminded that God is a relational God, and Jesus demonstrates God’s relational nature by joining man and his pain.  Jesus then gives me the example of always doing what He says He’s going to do.  He relates to those who He is supposed to, and He doesn’t give everyone what they want (thats not a relationship.)  He spends time alone, He enters into pain for the benefit of those He loves, and He gives us the miracle of restraint in His response to the temptations in the desert, and to the unbelievable temptation to forgo the unthinkable pain and suffering He endured on the Cross.

And I’m reminded, that I am no expert at relationships. I’m just fortunate to be in them. I love that I get to be in relationships- with friends, my wife, my children, the folks at Challenge Quest, the people I serve, people from past jobs…  Brother, I am blessed.

I want to be better at doing what I say I do, and not talking about what I am not willing to engage.  Perhaps now passing age 40, the approval of any man or the need for my own sense of significance will not matter, and looking to the redemptive Christ will remind me, will teach me about what real relationship is.  I’m no expert- right now I’m feeling a little more like John Lennon in 1965 when he sang “I’m a Loser, and I’m not what I appear to be…”  And, I feel good in that place because I am in awe of a demonstration of grace and congruence in the person of Jesus Christ.

Easter reminds me that there is death that precedes new life.  The blossoms today give me energy to allow that death in my life to run its course- because my eyes fixed on Christ will yield a beauty I can’t manufacture in my bogus attempts, which even look very good on the outside.

Hebrews 12:2-3 tells us: “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”

May we today consider His example, take an honest account of our life, and let the best relationships grow from His example, from His relationship with us.  May we do what we say we do, and help others see the story for what it is:  New Life!

• Lets engage the adventure of new life!
• Lets look for the new life in acts of justice, where we care for God’s people!
• Lets let new life flow in Community!
• Lets consider who we are in the identity of new life!
• Lets look for God’s new life acting in the world today!
• Let us most of all, look to the Author of New Life.

How might you do this today?  This year?