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Forget the homeless, stranger for a moment. In some ways it’s easy to offer acceptance to that person because we can do it from a distance. What I’m interested in hearing about is how well you accept the people in your daily circle of influence? Maybe a more applicable question is, how well do you know them? The people you work with? The people you sit next to in class? Your neighbors? Your very best friends? The people you serve with at church? Your family? Here’s my answer, you know them only as much as they are willing to let you know them. If we’re honest, we all have areas of our lives that we choose not to share, even with those closest to us. Why? As I ask this question I think of a red-faced and furious Jack Nicholson in A Few Good Men erupting with, “You can’t handle the truth!” Are you prepared to hear that your best friend was repeatedly molested by a family member as a child? What would your responsibility as a Christian be to that person, and would it be different if that friend told you instead that they had cheated on their spouse in the past?

Christians talk about acceptance and forgiveness, but don’t these concepts, in our lives, often have boundaries? I wonder if the limits to which we’ll share is relative to that which we’ll accept. I have some friends that are not afraid to peel back layer after layer of themselves, like an onion, and expose to everyone the depths of their souls. I have a certain respect and admiration for that kind of openness but, truthfully, it also scares me because I know that I am not always willing to reciprocate with the same level of openness. Fear of rejection, judgment and/or condemnation often keep us from sharing our hurts and struggles, leaving us bound to the sins, failures, victimizations and insecurities of our past and, at the same time, crippling our present. We are products of our pasts; good, bad and indifferent.

During a recent church service we incorporated what is called a “cardboard testimonial”. Friends wrote on one side of a piece of cardboard something that they’ve struggled with in their past. On the other side of the cardboard they wrote how God used that situation to change them. Nearly 20 people shared pieces of their stories in this way. The purpose of this presentation was to highlight the transformational powers of Christ in our lives. What we discovered was the potential for a deeper healing of the soul as a result of sharing our vulnerabilities with our community. Hurts, tragedies, and sins were offered for all to see, and it was beautiful to watch them received with the love and compassion of Christ by our body.

Can we actually live a life of freedom from the shackles of our past, and how can we help each other succeed? James 5:16 tells us to “…confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” What if we really lived like this text asks us to? My questions, to this point, have revolved around how we accept others, but the bigger question is how willing are you to share yourself with your community? Can you really allow yourself to be seen? Do you believe that God promises deliverance from that which binds our hearts?

Below is a link to the cardboard testimony of another church. I dare you not to be moved as you watch this unfold. Also, as you witness the redemptive stories of others, I challenge you to consider the following:

What about your past is crippling you today? Are you willing to share yourself  so that your community can pray for you, and so God can heal you? We cannot heal what we cannot feel. Let’s use this space as our cardboard testimonial. I’ll go first. My cardboard reads on the front, “Struggle for Control in my life” and to highlight God’s transformation in me, the back of my cardboard reads, “Finally Gave Control back to God!”

What does your’s say?

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”  Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’  All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” – Matthew 22:36-40

Isn’t it interesting how we ourselves at times are our greatest obstacles to living the life God created us to live?  This can get particularly tricky when we talk about the Almighty’s desire for us to be instruments of his mercy and justice.  The last thing some of us need is a greater focus on ourselves as some already possess honorary doctorate degrees in self-centeredness.  However, there is a need for asking the Lord to help us in tending to our own junk in order to allow Him some solid space to work in and through our lives.

One of the great manifestations of this obstacle of self is that of self-pity.  I am fascinated by Jesus again and again, and his way of wording these important laws in Matthew 22 is no exception.  He did not say that we are to love our neighbors more or less than ourselves but rather love them AS ourselves.  Some folks struggle time and time again to love and serve others in a healthy way because they are so incredibly consumed by self-pity and with that, at times, self-punishment.

“The great and spirited novelist D. H. Lawrence once said, ‘I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.  A small bird will drop dead frozen from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.’  That’s because wild things live lives of pure action.  Today, the more I live like a ‘wild thing,’ taking action instead of meditating on my sad condition, the faster self-pity drops away.  Chronic sadness seems to become more a thing of the past. . . It took me years of looking back to see that self-pity had become an addiction of the worst kind in my life, a very nasty habit.  It acts on the system much like heroin.  It hooks you into feeling numb to life.  It makes creative action impossible.” – Steve Chandler in ReInventing Yourself

Self-pity can indeed become a bizarre and powerful addiction, and from that, one heck of a block to us doing our part in ushering in God’s kingdom here on Earth.  I of all people know how easy it is to get stuck in one’s head and over-think things in the name of meditation, education, and/or rational analysis.  (To top that off, I’m a licensed professional counselor, ha!)

So how about you?  What in your life is keeping you from living the life of intentional action that our Lord desires for you?  Is self-pity your drug of choice or is something else?

What would it look like for you to be freed from the pressure of others’ expectations and/or your own fears?

Be free and live wild!

I’ve been talking for about a year about the contrast between people who understand they are “image bearers” and those who don’t acknowledge this. The vision is important because if we are made in the image of God, then we were made to create and contribute. We have what it takes to create life around us and great things are possible when we believe that. What happens when you believe you already have enough? Enough stuff, enough relationships, enough experience, enough support, enough strength- to be the best you that you can be right here and right now. Adam and Eve walked in the garden with God, and enjoyed it. They were people, His creation, and He was God- and He was big enough to take care of them.  This changed when they believed they didn’t have enough.

We, as image bearers, have the DNA to listen and trust when that “still small voice” speaks to us saying “you have what it takes to make a difference…”  This trust characterizes people today who regardless of their income, social status or situation- believe they were made to make a contribution to this world- and they have been given enough to do so- today. These folks are attractive to say the least. We follow people like this because they give us courage to believe and hope in the fact that we have big time value, and we can make significant contributions to a greater good. They provide leadership just because they have a “sound estimation” of who they are- and they act with confidence with this knowledge. Their anxiety is limited, and their hospitality big, no matter what measure of “stuff” they have on a scale determined by the world.

On the other side of the coin are most of us- who believe we don’t have enough. We (I say “we” because I spend more time in this camp) are Consumers. We believe we need more. We may not acknowledge it, or show awarness of how our behavior reflects this, but most of us live life as if being a consumer is not just something we do, but someone we are. This isn’t just about material possessions, or the entertainment that most of us believe is paramount to a full life. Its about relationships, skills, belief, ability, gifts, context. Most of us believe that we need “more.” This is reflected in behavior that shows an expectation of the consumer to spectate and not participate. We evaluate and engage in constant transaction….its commerce at all levels- economic, social, spiritual, physical. In church- many people go, and evaluate it, and ask each other- did you like it? Was the singing good? Much of the questions center around the quality of whats presented, and how we would “rate” the experience. These are similar to questions we would ask about a new Mexican restaurant, or a movie we saw last night.

The contributor, however,  expects a life of collaboration.  They plug in.  They accept responsibility for their part, and trust the responsibility of others to live into their part.  They see life as participatory, and listen for cues from the Master Story Teller.  They trust that they have a specific role to play, and when they choose not to act- it is a choice based on trust, not an ambivalent lack of engagement.  I am developing these ideas weekly, and diving into this “consumer vs contributor” conversation more and more. I would appreciate your questions and comments.

I want, lastly, to comment on an experience I had last week that brings home this question of how we see ourselves. I had the privilege of being the keynote speaker for the annual vision dinner to raise funds for Camp David of the Ozarks in Rolla, Missouri.  This post is already a little long, but I have so much I would like to say about that experience.  The directors of this camp, who serve the children of incarcerated adults, are Ben and Grace Smith.  They are young, and not trained as social workers or counselors or coming off seminary degrees.  They just simply acted on a calling to help these children believe they are loved through a camp experience.  They are making a generational difference, and they started this big time work just 5 years ago.  When I got to tour the camp- I saw a beautiful piece of land, with a multi purpose building, a ball field, and a few small “covered wagon” tent cabins surrounding a fire ring in the woods.  This was camp!  No lake, no blob, no zip lines, just campers together with staff who love them and stay with them even when they’re difficult and resisting the very love they desire so much.  And, pretty much all of the urban children whose parents are in prison had never been out of the city or into the woods before their week at Camp David.  Oh yeah, and they all get to come to camp for free.  The Smiths just believed that people would come through and finance this great idea…. I mean, this calling.

Ben says that when the kids fight- he doesn’t like it, but it is a great opportunity for everyone to learn because they’re being honest at this time.  Ben gets it, and is “engaging adventure” by entering into their fights, making peace, and listening.  Behavior management is important in this camp community of “at risk” kids- but its not the ultimate goal.  Changed lives of kids who know they’re loved …. that’s the goal.  Its happening, too.

So, I show up to this fund raiser- and there’s almost 400 people there.  Everyone is local, from or around Rolla, population 16000.  There are people from the local college, groups representing Catholic ministries, homeschoolers too.  I met a guy who works for the Southern Baptist Convention as well as the Pastor of the local Assembly of God Church.  College students and local business folks were also in attendance.  The guy who was running the fund raising portion of the dinner said “This is our camp, this is Rolla’s camp.  What a difference we could make tonight if all of us who believe we are truly blessed, gave like we are blessed.”  Ben and Grace never once described their camp is “little.”  They spoke of needs, but spoke mostly about the kids, and how God is changing their lives.   It was also obvious that people who were coming around this fantastic work, were inspired to do so by this young couple who just said yes.  The Smiths didn’t bring a big endowment, or advanced degrees, or a persuasive multi level marketing plan.  They just changed their lives to love kids who are hurting- and they believe that they’ve got enough.  The dinner just was a method to share the joy everyone had who was already involved, with those who could claim their identity as contributers- and collaborate in this work of God.

The evening came to a close.  Everyone there seemed genuinely glad to be a part of the Camp David family when it was over.  I was inspired.  This “little” camp with its upstart leaders helped redefine what “big” can be.  They provided hope that we all can be true contributors.

They also raised over $33,000 that night.

What have you been made to contribute to?  What have you been made to create?

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The 00’s came to a close, so I decided to make a media decade in review list. Here we go with the TV shows of the decade list. This is my weakest of all of the categories, as I don’t care about television all that much. Shows that I’ve heard I should be watching but I don’t include: Curb Your Enthusiasm, Mad Men, The Wire, Dexter and The Sopranos. So maybe those could have made this list. My least favorites would have to include: American Idol and Dancing with the Stars. I apologize to all you that I just offended with that last sentence. On to the best television of the last decade.

10–The Office UK
9–Planet Earth
8–Pardon The Interruption
7–The Colbert Report
6–30 Rock
5–Lost
4–House
3–Survivor
2–The Office
1–Arrested Development

I don’t know about you, but growing up I heard the words “Just Try Harder” often from coaches, teachers, and my parents. You see I was the average kid that was OK at a lot of things but not necessarily a stud at anything. Therefore, instead of batting 2nd or 3rd in the line-up I batted 8th or 9th. You see I could play but not at the level I or others wanted. Therefore, I was sent on a mission to “Try Harder”. I spent hours at the batting cage, watched my all-time favorite player Ozzie Smith over and over, I would listen to coaches and my dad, but it never really clicked. One day the baseball coach from our local high school came and watched my team practice and caught eye of me getting frustrated in hitting the ball. He watched, observed, then approached me and simply took my front foot and moved it out more opening up my stance. This way I could see the ball with both eyes instead one. (Who knew a few months later I would be fitted for glasses?) First pitch? It went sailing..

Seth Godin, one of my favorite authors wrote this about “Trying Harder”:

“The usual mantra is to ‘try harder’. Trying harder is impossible when you’re already trying as hard as you can.

But you can always try different.

Years ago, I was creating trivia questions for a product we built for Prodigy. We had a 99% accuracy rate in doing the questions. Which was great, except there were 1800 questions in a batch, which meant 18 wrong each time, which was totally and completely unacceptable. These were honest mistakes, made by smart people working as hard as they could.

No matter how hard we tried, we couldn’t do better than 99%. So we switched our system completely and did it in a totally different way. Same number of people, same number of hours, 100% accuracy.

If it’s not working, harder might not be the answer.”  

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2010/03/try-different.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed:+typepad/sethsmainblog+(Seth’s+Blog)

I just wonder if this might be true of us and our desire to follow Christ? I know even in my own spirituality I have been counseled to just try harder. Our churches have tried harder to be relevant and reach more people using contemporary services, meeting in coffee shops, creating movements and more. But what if trying harder doesn’t work? Maybe it is time to try something different!

Any suggestions?

I’ve recently had to study the art of Michelangelo Caravaggio, and to those of you that don’t know art this is NOT the same Michelangelo that painted the Sisteen Chapel or the one that is named after the Ninja Turtle.  This Michelangelo more known just as Caravaggio is the dark, tortured, tainted, and flawed follower of Christ with an amazing skill at painting.  He lived from about 1571-1610 and was known as a brilliant artist that painted dark and controversial paintings.  He was a bit of an indulgent, he gambled, and drank often and spent his time with what people now a days would call “low lives.”  Back in the day artists would mostly paint religious pieces commissioned by a church or some sort of  insanely rich ruler, Caravaggio painted for freedom, and for the church because he had been convicted of murdering a man and used his skills of painting to get him out of trouble (which if you study more about Caravaggio he has done this multiple time in his life.)  One of his last pieces he painted was of David and Goliath, the reason why I am speaking of this and why it stands out to me is because it is very dark (like most of his pieces) and very graphic.  If you take a look at the painting on the left you will see David holding the head of Goliath, but the interesting thing about Goliath is, Goliath is a self portrait of Caravaggio.  Caravaggio put himself in as the head of Goliath.  Some people say it’s because he was looking for Atonement from the church for his sins.  I see it more as symbolism, that we are all in some way like Goliath and we are all capable of serious evil.  Caravaggio did indeed do some evil stuff, but he was a man who feared God, just not man.  God LOVES to use flawed men, it’s something that he does often in the Bible.  The beautiful thing about God is that he is forgiving, but we are still responsible for our wrong doings.  The beautiful thing about being a christian is, that we get to try to be like Jesus, which is hard but something I love to try to do, with my strengths and with my flaws.  Do you think that this art is good or bad?  Do you feel as though we even as God fearing christians can do and sometimes will do things that are evil or are against God’s will?  What do you think Caravaggio could have been saying?  What does this mean to you?  I think I am capable of anything, especially when I am thinking of God first and striving to be more like Jesus.  Do you think Caravaggio was fully concerned during some of his darkest times, of being more like Jesus?  Just some things to thing about, and some exploration of old world art.  Look up some more Caravaggio it’s brilliant stuff, some of my favorites are:  The Doubting of Thomas, and The Calling of Matthew.

“My back hurts.”

We had just spent a night on the floor of a basketball court during an in town missions trip.  One of the guys I was with chimed in again, “My back really hurts.  But why do I feel more connected to Jesus because my back hurts from sleeping on the hardwood last night?  Like I am suffering for Jesus or something.”  This was a fascinating question.  Why did a tweaked back make him (us) feel more connected to Jesus?

During this trip, we had been serving the homeless at a downtown shelter run by the beautiful folks at Trinity Episcopal Church.  People would come in off of the streets for a hot meal, and we had the privilege to hang out with them and serve them breakfast.  I believe that my friend having an ailing back connected him (us) to Jesus by helping him to identify with the homeless people that we were serving.  Sleeping on the hardwood floors somehow helped him (us) to understand and be able to relate to those who had to sleep on the pavement the night before.  In a very small way, we could identify with the pain of being homeless, and that helped us to connect with the folks we were serving.  In do so, it also connected us with the person of Jesus.

I once heard Tony Campolo say, “We can’t just look at the Bible through middle-class American eyes, and try to fit it into our lives.  We have to identify with the poor in order to understand the message of the Bible.”

We need to identify and relate with the poor and the hurting.  We need to begin to put a face to pain–a face to suffering–a face to a statistic.  In doing so, does it also help us to better understand the gospel message of Jesus Christ?

“Compassion grows with the inner recognition that your neighbor shares your humanity with you.  This partnership cuts through all walls, which might have kept you separate.  Across all barriers of land and language, wealth and poverty, knowledge and ignorance, we are one, created from the same dust, subject to the same laws, and destined for the same end.  With this compassion you can say, ‘In the face of the oppressed I recognized my own face and in the hands of the oppressor I recognize my own hand.  Their flesh is my flesh, their blood is my blood, their pain is my pain, and their smile is my smile.  Their ability to torture is in me, too; their capacity to forgive I find also in myself.  There is nothing in me that does not belong to them too; nothing in them that does not belong to me’…In the depths of my being, I meet my fellow humans with whom I share love and have life and death.”  Henri Nouwen; With Open Hands

“In the silence of the morning

I am alive to the new day’s light,

alert to the early stirrings of the wind

and the first sounds of the creatures.

In the silence of my heart

I hear the yearnings that are in me and the fears,

the hopes that rise from within

and the doubts that trouble my soul.

In the beginnings of this day, O God,

before the night’s stillness is lost to the day’s busyness,

open to me the treasure of my inner being

that in the midst of this day’s busyness I may draw on wisdom.

Assure me again of my origins in you,

assure me again that my true depths are of you.”

-from A Celtic Psalter, by J. Philip Newell

Come to Colorado! We are going to go hang out at Silver Cliff Ranch (http://www.silvercliffranch.com/). While we are there we will be helping out at the camp making meals, and doing some work projects. We will help serve breakfast and dinner, and have the rest of the day free. There will be time for skiing at Ski Cooper (http://www.skicooper.com/), snowshoeing, visiting the Mount Princeton Hot Springs and just hanging out. We will have some evening sessions by Chris King around the question of “what are you going to do with your life?”

Come ready to work and ready to have a good time just spending time together.

Here are the details:

Dates: March 14-19, 2008 (we will leave Tulsa on the 14th and be back in Tulsa late on the 19th)

Where: Sliver Cliff Ranch, Colorado. Silver Cliff is near Buana Vista there is a map on the Sliver Cliff we site at http://www.silvercliffranch.com.

Cost: $100 for lodging. We will get three meals a day at the camp if you want them (breakfast, a sack lunch, and dinner), other food is on your own. Food while traveling is on your own, as is travel. If you want to ski plan on around $50 a day for lift tickets and $25 a day for rentals. Be sure and plan some money to help cover gas on the way out and back for whoever you ride with.

Travel: We will car pool from Tulsa, OK, or you can just meet us in Colorado. Be sure and have some money to throw in for gas, and let us know if you are willing to drive.

Who can come: This will be a small trip, we have space for about 10 people, You must be 18 or over.

If you want to come let Chris know by emailing info@cqmissional.com or find him on Facebook. A $50 deposit will secure your spot. If you have questions email Chris.

For the past several weeks, my wife and I have been practically glued to the TV from 7:00 – 11:00 every night.  It doesn’t seem to matter what event they are showing, we seemed to find ourselves hooked. But my personal favorite event of the Vancouver 2010 Winter Olympics thus far has been the Men’s Snowboarding Half-Pipe.

Going into his second run in the half-pipe medal competitions Shaun White had already clinched the gold.  All he had to do was board right down the center of the pipe and cross the line.  He could have taken it easy and just goofed around.  Instead he gave the Canadian audience and the rest of the viewers watching from around the world one of the best athletic performances we’ve ever seen.   To everyone’s amazement, he went on to give to give us the Double McTwist 1260, which was a huge and unnecessary risk.  This trick was created by White himself and had never been successfully completed in competition by anyone else.  In fact White himself had taken a brutal crash at the last Winter X Games while attempting to complete this trick.  But with gold secured and nothing more to win and everything to lose, White held nothing back and it was inspiring.

After the initial celebration and awe of what I had just witnessed began to wear off, I found myself wondering if I would have gone for it, had I been in his shoes.  I’m not sure that I would have. But I love that Shaun saw value in completing that run, even if it wasn’t for a medal.   Personally, I believe that God takes joy in seeing us use our talents.  Even if there is “nothing to gain” at the moment.  I often find that I have a hard time engaging and enjoying things that don’t bring me obvious and immediate gain.  For instance, with this blog, will I be able to continue to write this blog, even if I never get any comments? Or what if nobody ever reads it? Will I still find value in taking the time to write out these thoughts?

What do you think? Was White’s final run courageous or foolish?  And would you answer the same way if he had busted his face and suffered a career ending injury?